If you are a parent with a teen or student that is struggling to do well in school, you may feel a certain amount of shame, blame, or guilt as the parent.
I need to tell you today that there is NO REASON for you to feel any shame!
A friend shared with me once, that even though parents may my help, they feel too much shame and guilt for their child’s grades that they do not seek out extra support.
So many times, we as parents may internally blame ourselves for the academic performance of our kids.
If our kid is failing a class, struggling to bring grades back up, or struggling to learn a new concept, we may tend to blame ourselves for our kids struggles.
We do not need to feel any shame or guilt about how our teens and kiddos are doing in school!
SO often, we as parents want to do our best to help our kids; in school, in life, and in their future. We feel like we need to be involved in so many aspects of their lives, and that if we are not involved, we may in some way be letting our kids down.
Many parents look for the best ways to help our kids in school. Some parents try to help teach their kids, or tutor their kids. But if we do not know the subject, we feel shame about not being able to help them.
Others parents want to help their kids, but have demanding work schedules that do not allow. Or, some parents just get home SO exhausted, that we do not have the energy to support our teens in their learning.
No matter your situation with your teen, you should not feel any shame, because it is not your role to support your child in school, but the school’s role.
Your child’s school and teachers have the responsibility to be teaching and training your kids to learn the skills and lessons they need to prepare them for life. But so often, your teen is struggling in school because the school system has let them down.
In nearly every situation, students struggle in school because they do not have the skills necessary for doing well in school. These skills should have been directly taught by the school, but sadly, some students are left out of these lessons because it is not built into our schools teachings.
I, as a tutor and academic mentor, do not blame your for your child’s grades. I honestly don’t even blame your child for their grades. Instead, I believe that your child or teen deserves the right support from their school that they should have had from the beginning.
Free yourself from the shame and the guilt, and know that everything that you are giving to your child right now is enough! You are enough!
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Hey there! My name is Rachael and I have been a private tutor for over 10 years. I earned my undergraduate degree in 2 and a half years and earned my graduate degree by age 22. I have tutored dozens of high school students, college students, and graduate students. I offer support, encouragement, and resources to help parents learn how to best help their teen or child that is struggling in school.
